Girlfriend Update: A Question

Comment by Bake Town (Guest)

Bake Town (Guest) — Sat, 17 Sep 2005 09:46:54 +0000

Oh hell no.

Comment by Javi (Guest)

Javi (Guest) — Fri, 16 Sep 2005 23:50:52 +0000

not yet. later, sure - when everyone is settled and confident, right now, can of worms. definitely wait.

Comment by Crouching Hamster (Guest)

Crouching Hamster (Guest) — Fri, 16 Sep 2005 15:27:23 +0000

If the Ex is OK with it, and Amy is OK with it (the real issue), why not? But definitely make sure the Ex is bringing someone. Or that pink elephant will be looming there over the dinner table. And you and Amy will be giggling and chatting, and the Ex may not be able to easily jump in.

I've done this a million times (OK, about 20 times - I'm serious!) and I don't recall any stories or reminiscences.

From the new girlfriend perspective, I'm always curious about the Ex, and when I'm feeling confident about the relationship, quite ready to meet her and hopefully make a new friend, and I have.

Comment by Speaker (Guest)

Speaker (Guest) — Fri, 16 Sep 2005 13:59:15 +0000

well the consensus is with the "don't do it!"

but to play devil's advocate. when i first met my wife, she was good friends with her ex. we never double dated but he hung out a lot with us and a couple of friends.

not exactly the same because there were other people to pay attention to us/him.

perhaps first meetings would be best that way, not a double date, but like a group going out to see a movie or something.

just 2 cents.

Comment by Cori (Guest)

Cori (Guest) — Fri, 16 Sep 2005 12:39:34 +0000

If you're uncomfortable with the idea, then it's too early.

Comment by Nicholas (Guest)

Nicholas (Guest) — Fri, 16 Sep 2005 12:23:10 +0000

I wouldn't do a double date yet. It might be OK to bump into them. Meaning I would not stress to much about separating them.

Comment by olafandyjon (Guest)

olafandyjon (Guest) — Fri, 16 Sep 2005 11:00:39 +0000

I think this one's a bit too early. Right now, I would say it's a bad idea, especially if stories come out that Amy has not be properly prepared for. Maybe after you and Amy have gone out for a while longer and become even more comfortable and, more importantly, even more trusting, (not to say you aren't now, but every relationship deepens even further) this could be pulled off.

Girlfriend Update: A Question

Ken — Fri, 16 Sep 2005 08:06:53 +0000

I will draw upon the collective wisdom of the Internets for this one.