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BlogHer Coverage 7: More Saturday Afternoon
Monday, 2005 August 1 - 4:23 pm
This is about the mommyblogging breakout session.

Saturday 3:30 p.m.
People are surprised I'm in this session, but it's a really a sort of follow-up to the "How to Get Naked" session, just with a less provocative title.

Our panelists are Meghan Townsend, Jenn Satterwhite, and Jenny Lauck.

The first question is, what is "mommyblogging" and why does the term have such a negative connotation? It seems that it really stems from a feminist issue, the idea that being a stay-at-home mom is a less-than-worthwhile pursuit, and so a blog about being a stay-at-home mom isn't worth reading. It's a suggestion that moms face from other women, as well as from men.

I think the best suggestion I hear for this problem is to embrace the term "mommyblogging" and own it, as Melissa did by using the phrase "please, call me mommy". Words can lose their stigma if we don't allow ourselves to be insulted by it. But we have to also make sure not to use the word as an insult ourselves, or we only perpetuate the problem.

In the next part of the discussion, we touch back on the identity blogging issues, the fact that mommyblogs do post a lot of personal information about women and their families. People are sensitive that there can be negative consequences associated with this if they're not careful... but mostly along the lines of "I might hurt someone with what I say", rather than "some crazy Internet person will find my kids". Most people in the room strongly agree that the dangers towards people's kids are overstated (as Alice would say, "When I take my son outside, I put a tarp over him.") I'm gratified by the fact that people agree with me on this.

There's a lot of talk about positive things. People discuss how mommyblogs are among the best in terms of writing. There's a point made that mommyblogs are not blogs about children and husbands; they're blogs about women, and the issues those women face in the course of parenting. It's that personal aspect, that identity-blogging aspect, that makes these blogs so valuable and entertaining.

There's also a sense that families will come to see the moms' blogs as being useful for fostering communication. I think that's a terribly important point also.

I'm impressed with this discussion, even though it devolves into a fairly unstructured conversation. But I kind of expected that: like the blogs they write, the mommies are intimate and immediate, and they're not likely to remain bound by a formally structured discussion format. I don't see this as a bad thing (though the podcast of this session will probably be utterly indecipherable.)

Something else I would eventually discover: the mommies on the panel sure know how to party. More on this later.
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Comment #1 from Busy Mom (Guest)
2005 Aug 1 - 6:18 pm : #
Interesting to read from your perspective, thanks!
Comment #2 from MetroDad (Guest)
2005 Aug 3 - 7:35 pm : #
I admit. I originally came to check out your site because I was curious about what kind of guy would attend a conference for women called BlogHer. But after having surfed through some of your archives, I'm genunely glad to have found you. Although you're not a "daddy blogger", I think it's rare to find men who blog about their lives and are so enthusiastic about the power of blogging.

Kudos to you, Kato. Keep up the great writing. I'll certainly be back.
Comment #3 from Lorrian (Guest)
2005 Aug 4 - 6:35 pm : #
Ditto to MetroDad's comment. I was curious, and am glad I came upon your blog. I admire your wit and candor.

You'll find your lucky girl bf is 46 (gasp) and his family had pretty much given up on him. Perhaps that's WHY we finally met.
Comment #4 from Ken (realkato)
2005 Aug 4 - 8:17 pm : #
Aw, you're all so nice! Thanks for dropping by.

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