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Girlfriend Update: The L-Word
Wednesday, 2005 November 2 - 2:23 am
Ohhh, now it's REALLY hitting the fan.

In most of my past relationships, I have usually been the one to break out the "L-word".

(No, I'm not talking about "lesbian". Though, that's a good word too.)

As recently as a few years ago, I was always the fall-in-love-too-quickly guy. I was the one who would say "I love you" two weeks into a dating relationship, because I thought it was true. I was the one who would start talking about long term plans and wedding arrangements WAY before it was appropriate to do so. Yeah, I was That Guy. (Note to single men out there: don't be That Guy.)

In retrospect, what I felt was usually more of a crush, but I didn't know any better at the time. And when I would say "I love you", it would cause a lot of awkwardness and difficulty. I don't know if that was the sole reason so many of my earlier relationships failed, but I'm sure it didn't help.

So when it came to dating Amy, I decided from the start that I would hold out. I would wait until I was sure... and even then, I'd wait until she said it to me first.

There were times where we'd both say things like "I love... the way you make me laugh", or "I love... when you bring me vodka tonics". But we were both careful to avoid stringing together the exact three-word phrase that could change everything.

When we were in New York, we hit our two-month anniversary. We had this drunken conversation after a party:

AMY: Can we pretend like we've been dating for six months?
KEN: Um, okay!
AMY: Okay, start pretending.
KEN: Ummmm....
AMY: You suck at pretending.

I guess I was supposed to say "I love you" at this point. But because I suck at pretending, I didn't. But the next day, my patience was rewarded. Amy said it to me first. And I said it back to her, and we were both sure. Or, as Amy said as we were riding the Statue of Liberty ferry: "We're in the same boat."

So, yes, Amy and I are in love. If you thought our relationship was sickeningly sweet before, just take a look at us now. We're like wet candy canes dipped in honey and sprinkled with powdered sugar. I'll try to spare you all the full brunt of the sticky sweetness, because it would probably KILL YOU. And we wouldn't want that.
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Comment #1 from JohnC (Guest)
2005 Nov 2 - 2:29 pm : #
That is so GREAT!
Comment #2 from Noelle (Guest)
2005 Nov 2 - 4:39 pm : #
Can we come to your wedding? I like to bring Williams Sonoma gifts...
Comment #3 from Bake Town (Guest)
2005 Nov 2 - 5:36 pm : #
I can feel my teeth rotting.
Comment #4 from DonnaF (Guest)
2005 Nov 2 - 5:54 pm : #
Comment #5 from Phil (Guest)
2005 Nov 2 - 11:46 pm : #
Dude, what Bake Town said -- completely!

(Not that there's anything wrong with it.)
Comment #6 from Crouching Hamster (Guest)
2005 Nov 3 - 12:15 pm : #
Yeah, I think you left some saccharine here.

But just for the record, gang, they're not all that bad.

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