Real Kato Blog: Girlfriend Update: An Unusual Problem

And some words of advice to my younger self.

It's another day away from Amy today. Rats. Are we too attached to each other? It's getting so we can barely spend an hour apart before we start pining for each other. But tonight the laundry had to get done; I was down to my backup backup underwear.

The weird thing is, now that I'm finally happily in a relationship (and yes, I'm freely using the R-word now), I'm finding that lots of single women are popping up in my life. I know attractive single women all across the country, from California to New York to right here in Raleigh, and I can't help them out. I don't even know any single guys to set them up with.

Ten years ago, I had lots of male engineer friends. We were all nice guys, decent-looking, and successful... but chronically single. We just didn't know many single women. Oh sure, it didn't help that we were nerds. But the Ken of 1995 really would have benefited from knowing the Ken of 2005, who's totally ready to pimp all his bitches.

Then again, I don't know if I would've recommended the Ken of 1995 to anyone. He needed help. Maybe he wasn't completely hopeless, but he was definitely a fixer-upper project.

Amy and I have been together two months, as of this past Monday. Everything is fantastic. I think this is my reward for all my years of effort. If I meet another 1995-Ken, I'll tell him: keep at it. It might take ten years, but keep working. Improve yourself. Learn how to talk to people. Learn how to read people's emotions. Care about people until it hurts. Be genuinely interested in other people's lives. Be willing to change. Sometimes you'll think to yourself that it's never gonna happen, and sometimes you'll wonder if it's all worth the effort. But when the payoff comes, and you're surrounded with more love than you knew existed, you won't regret it.

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