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Girlfriend Update: A Test?
Sunday, 2005 September 25 - 11:28 pm
I think this falls under the category of "baggage": when you try to read too much into your S.O.'s actions, because you've been burned by similar things in the past.

So this was tonight's dilemma. When your girlfriend tells you she's feeling a little down, and that she doesn't think she'd be good company, does that mean:

(a) exactly what she said, so you should leave her alone
(b) exactly what she said, so you should go over to her place to make her feel better
(c) something else altogether

The problem is that I've faced this exact same test with previous girlfriends, and I always seem to pick the wrong answer. It's like a game of three-card monty, where the correct answer changes every time.

Objectively, if I were my own counselor, I'd say: "You're worrying about this too much. And if you place yourself in the position of always letting yourself be subjugated by little things like this, it'll ultimately cause more harm to the relationship than good."

Then, my other imaginary counselor would say, "The very fact that you've got imaginary counselor friends means you're over-thinking this relationship." Um, oh yeah.

I suppose just have to remember that Amy and I seem to have a good thing going. I have to assume that not everything that happens is a test of my commitment. And if I am being tested, then I have to trust that my honest feelings will lead me to the right answer.

For the record, tonight I picked (a).
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Comment #1 from Duchess Monkey Pants (Guest)
2005 Sep 26 - 10:25 am : #
There is no wrong answer, there are no tests, if I did test you I would give you an F, so you would have to practice, practice, practice, practice (give it to me Charlie Brown).

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